10 Things Every Mom Needs to Hear on the Hard Days

Dishes are piled up in the sink.  You’re pulling clean underwear out of the dryer for your potty training toddler.

Your kids need a bath (and a mommy-powered-tooth-brushing).  Dinner is looking like frozen pizza (again).

And you’re pretty sure you didn’t win any awards for “the Most Patient and Gentle Mom” today.

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By: Sarah Koontz

You snap a shot of your depressing laundry pile after the kids go to bed and share it on Instagram with a self-deprecating comment and the hashtag #momfail.

It’s only meant as a joke, of course, but deep down it feels a little truer than you wish it did.

If this sounds even remotely familiar, you need to know two things:

  1. You are not alone. Most of us feel this way far more than we ever admit.
  2. You’re doing better than you think.

This article is for all of the moms out there who wear self-condemnation  like a weighted garland around their neck; women who are on the verge of drowning in the ferocious sea of guilt.

There was a time in my life when I too was drowning in a sea of mommy guilt.

With each new milestone my baby met, I found myself sinking all the more; violently thrashing to stay just above the waterline.

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My personal sea of mommy guilt was filled with a multitude of vicious predators.

           The expectations of others.

           My desire to be a perfect mom.

          The responsibility I felt to do right by my children.

Even the few successes I managed to claim as a young mom were overshadowed by the guilt I felt when I failed.

I’ve finally broken free from this self-destructive cycle and I want you to experience freedom too!

Never underestimate the power of a REFRESHED perspective.

 

Here is my list of 10 things every mom needs to hear on the hard days:

    1. You are doing better than you think, and your mom friends who look like they have it all together probably don’t.
    2. The simple phrase, “I’m Sorry” transforms  mothering mistakes into mentoring moments.
    3. You are beautiful in sweatpants, a coffee-stained tee and a messy bun.  But a quick shower and costume change has the power to transform your perspective.
    4. Kids grow up fast!  So, if you are feeling stuck in a certain season of motherhood, take courage in the fact that it will soon be over.
    5. A good night sleep changes everything, and nothing at all.
    6. Your kids don’t need you to be perfect, they just need you to be present.
    7. Feeling Overwhelmed?  Stop what you are doing and write a quick to do list (aka a brain dump).
    8. God loves you.  He handpicked you for this task, and He will also equip you for it.
    9. Everybody has bad days, but we don’t have to allow our failures and weakness to define us.
    10. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Our job is so important, and we really want to do it right.  But so often, we end up feeling discouraged and even like we’re failing.

I think the main reason we get so down on ourselves is because mothering is a rather isolating venture.  Sure, we have mom friends.  And sure, we try to be open and honest when we get together for that occasional cup of hot coffee.

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      About Sarah Koontz

      Sarah Koontz is a freelance writer and regular contributor at Grounded & Surrounded. If you are interested in growing your faith, nourishing your family life, and discovering the beauty of God's design, be sure to follow her personal blog at SarahKoontz.com. When Sarah is not writing, you are likely to find her covered in dirt, sitting in the middle of her garden, adoring her beautiful flock of backyard chickens. She is eternally grateful for her husband and two little girls, and revels in their simple, uncluttered life. You can also find her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Pinterest.

      3 thoughts on “10 Things Every Mom Needs to Hear on the Hard Days

      1. I wish I had read this when I was a young mom. I wonder if it would have made a difference in my own #momfail confessions. I am not sure it would have made me stop believing that as much as it would have definitely taught me more about grace and that is what I see here. Sometimes we have to navigate the rough place to give grace fully to others we see traversing the same spaces. I love that we can do that because even though we don’t get do overs, His Word says ‘Love covers a multitude’ and I am grateful that the journey is not compromised of all our failures but colored by grace moments that allow us to pour hope into others like you do, Sarah. 😉
        Blessings,
        Dawn

        Thanks for linking up at #GraceMoments

      2. YES! This series sounds awesome. There is nothing like allowing God to fill in the #momfails with his grace and love, which in turn allows is to love our families better. Cheers, Tiffany

      3. What a great encouragement. Wish I would have know some of these truths as a new mom! Now I can encourage my girls to know there are enough and that it will all be taken care of by God.

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